Unplanned kids and abortion
I would like to hear from parents of unplanned pregnancies who faced the abortion question. What did you choose? How did that work out for you? Do you think other parents should be required to follow your example?
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1I got pregnant last year. I chose abortion. I have no regrets. In fact, I had been feeling horrible in the few weeks of pregnancy I experienced. I felt so much better after the abortion. It was a huge relief on my body and my mind.
No one should be required to follow my example. If you want kids and can raise them properly - go for it. If you don't want kids, don't have them.
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2Our pregnancy came by surprise. We'd been married for 6 years and tried for at least 3. We'd pretty much resigned ourselves to the fact that it wasn't going to happen, and were talking about maybe adopting. Right AFTER we discovered we were expecting, I lost my job and my wife's company reduced their benefits. Ending the pregnancy was considered but we decided to stick it out.
We now have a child with special needs and it has NOT been easy. But we did want a child and every day we feel more and more experienced as parents.
I would not impose my will on any other parent, but suggest that you are ready to accept ANY consequences of having a baby, including possible physical or mental handicaps.
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3My wife had an abortion shortly after we got married because we were too young and had just both started careers. Twenty years later we had our first child and now have two but every now and then I think about how we could have a twenty year old son or daughter now and I won't say that I regret our decision but there is a bit of sadness about it.
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4If you don't want the kid, give it up for adoption. There is absolutely no reason that a fellow human being should have to die because you just aren't 'ready'.
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5#4 you're a fucking dumbass. I dare you to really examine the state of the foster care system and then say that. If you still can, you're also a heartless pig who should still be disregarded. Everyone else, bravo.
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6I had two unplanned pregnancies. I am completely against abortion, and ended up with two miscarriages. I believe that things work out the way they are supposed to. I don't believe that we have as many "choices" as society has led us to believe that we have.
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7Pro life= how many babies have YOU adopted?
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8I agree with #5. The adoption/foster system is horrible, so if you're not ready, then get an aportion if you have an unplanned pregnancy (even though it's best to use birth control, sometimes it's not avaliable, or you're drunk, etc. and you just don't use it). Bravo to all you who kept your kids and aren't in the streets/begging for food/money to live.
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9#4 is a typical pro lifer, none of them have a clue what they're talking about. Killing a fetus is not murder. How many women have smoked or drunk alcohol during their pregnancy and ended up miscarrying? Should they all be tried for murder? Fetuses die all the time from natural and unnatural causes so what's the difference between that and intentionally aborting the fetus because you know you can't give the baby a good life?
And putting it up for adoption? What a stupid idea. Like the other commenter said, obviously you don't have any idea how many people adopt children and mistreat them or how long it takes for some babies to be adopted in the first place so they end up in some shithole foster home where the only reason the people applied to be foster parents was to get slaves legally.
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10i'm 20 and had a pregnancy scare a few months ago... i wasn't pregnant but my bf and i decided if i were, it would be up to me... and frankly i would've went for it. if the woman is not ready (emotionally, physically, mentally, and financially)... then well???
it's up to you... some people (like my parents) had unplanned pregnancy at a late age and considered it but decided against it .. Even though i know they were not ready for it financially... but now i have a beautiful little baby sister.
it's up to you. no one can decide what you want. those issues are very complex because alot of people and issues have to be considered but first look to yourself and take time to ponder it ALONE. then ask loved ones for the support you need whatever decision you make.
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11poster 10 here.. "went for it" i meant i would've had an abortion
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12#9, you're an ass. Yes, unborn children do die every day from natural causes, but so does every other age range. How many babies die of SIDS? Does that mean that if raising a child becomes too much for you that you can kill your baby? The elderly die every day as well. Does that mean that when caring for your ailing mother gets to be too much for you, you can just kill her too? Where does it end?
I believe that women have a choice. They have the right to abstain from sex. They have the choice to go on birth control when they start to consider having sex. They have the right to deny sex until a partner wears a condom. But once they have had sex and a life is concieved, women do not have the right to destroy that life. It is their responsibility and that of their partner to care for that child, whether by raising it themselves or by putting it up for adoption.
Oh, and newborns are almost always highly adoptable. So many couples want children, that biological parents can actually read applications and choose the parents.
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13I have had an abortion - No regrets because I wasnt ready but it was the hardest thing I have ever had to do
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14i consider a life to be out and about living like a regular joe.. seeing sun and breathing air. if its just a cluster of cells inside a womb, how is that a life? clusters of cells dont have a mind, they dont "know" whats going on. its not a life. you can't even humanize a cluster of cells. cancer is also a cluster of cells and people get that removed from their bodies everyday. removing a fetus isnt killing anything, if its used for stem cell research you're broadening the horizon for medical advances elsewhere. we NEED that. and whats the difference if a toddler died for whatever reason and the parents decide to donate the toddler's body for medical research? isnt that basically the same thing?
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15#12 yes #9 is an arse, but women have the right to choose until the foetus becomes a baby. Up until about 3 months, it is a parasite. It has no heart beat and could not survive on its own.
Are you saying women should keep rape babies? What if contraception failed? Condoms only have a 98% success rate, and the pill is not the most reliable. I've always said that if I fell pregnant now, I wouldn't keep it because at 19, it wouldn't be fair on the baby. What sort of life would it have with a student mother unable to afford it??
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