I'm not committing when I'm moving in a month
Why do guys always want me to commit? I am moving 1500 miles in a month and the guy I've been hooking up with wants me to change our status from hook up buddies to dating. First of all, 3 years ago when he drunk dialed me in an attempt to lose his virginity and I would have actually been available to date him, he had no interest in dating me. That's fine. I've never had a problem finding interested guys so I took his virginity and we parted as friends.Back in late March this year, 3 years after the last time we slept together, he decided while on E that I was the girl for him. After a discussion about how two people moving to NYC and Texas could not really date, especially with both earning starting salaries, we decided to just see where the next couple of months took us. We ended up as monogamous hook up buddies, but there was no "let me take you home to meet mom" discussion and that was great. Then a few weeks ago, my mom was visiting me and she happened to meet this guy and now he wants to date me in the "we could get engaged in the next year" kind of way.
Is it so wrong that I don't want to date, and definitely don't want to marry this guy? I mean, yea the sex is great and he's attractive, but NYC and Texas are more than 1500 miles away from each other and neither of us are old enough to bemoan not being married. He seems to think I'm being unreasonable and I can't keep up this "well maybe something might happen" facade any longer. Twenty-two is too young to commit to someone half a country away, in my opinion. Sure, two of my best friends are doing it, but I won't have the money for a costly divorce for at least 10 years, and I definitely won't have the money for a round-trip ticket to NYC every month!
Why did my pre-graduation, fuck-it-we're-seniors fling have to decide that he was hearing wedding bells after meeting my mother? Am I the only 22 year old woman who wants a little more time to meet all those bad guys and make those bad choices before settling down with an auditor? A sexy, charming, intelligent auditor, but still, that's such a "wife in the the kitchen barefoot and pregnant, white-picket fence" job! UGH! For all those women that bitch men won't commit, I get all the men that want to commit!
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1Here is a clue get a guy who will break his back to put food on the table not a .. what did you call him?
Sexy, charming, blah, blah, blah,
Auditor who will make another drunk call when he wants something a little more thrilling after you have become a domestic trophy for his wallet fillers.
I do not blame you but,
Damn you sound just as shallow as this dude.
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2this rant is beyond cute. some women actually want to be honorable, but you want to escape with no virtue intact whatsoever. It warms my heart to hear a woman want to be such a completely worthless slut.
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3wtf, 2.
how does not wanting to commit for logical reasons (long distance relationships just don't work, period.) make her a slut? that's not nice. obviously you didn't read this well enough. she has every right not to want to marry this guy- there are a lot of red flags, even from just this post, such as oh i dunno, him only deciding she's the girl for him when he's on E? that's stupid.
OP- you're right. you've got a good head on your shoulders. pay attention to the red flags.
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4aaaaaah, i get all the guys who dont want to commit. trade? yes? good. thanks :)
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5^ exactly. maybe #3 should fucking read before she criticizes me. It is not that she doesnt want to have a long term relationship, it is that she does not ever want a guy to commit. Sex without commitment equals slut. I dont know how else you would define a slut, but this bitch is one.
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65- she's talking about this specific guy. nowhere int he post does it say "i never want to commit to anyone"- just not this guy.
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7#4 I'll trade! Haha.
#2, #5. I don't want to get married til my career is set so yea, no desire for wedding bells for at least 6 years (5 for my Ph. D. and 1 for post-doc), but yes I'd like to get married eventually. Unfortunately, as a human I also have a sex drive and would like to have sex sometime before 6 years from now so if that makes me a slut, I'll take the label and wear it with pride!
#1 I don't think I make a very good trophy wife (as indicated when I said that's NOT what I want). I'm a little too educated for a trophy wife and way too into my career. As I told the others, I do enjoy sex. FYI, in today's world a hook up buddy is someone you sleep with and have fun with (in and out of the bedroom), but don't call a boyfriend. A booty call is someone you drunkenly call at 3 in the morning and regret when you wake up hungover in that person's bed. Just wanted you to have the terms straight since you seem confused. Also, I believe in the 50/50 split in the house and would never accept money from a man unless I was contributing equally. That way we both have assets and can weather a divorce successfully if that should happen. I guess I have no interest in a guy that wants to put food on the table because I feel as a human who eats food it is my job to provide for myself. I know it's not traditional Christian values, but it is traditional values - the prehistoric people expected everyone to gather their own food and resources. It's not shallow to like sexy, charming, intelligent guys. I guess I should like ugly, almost mentally disabled assholes so I'm not called shallow? O well, I'll proudly take shallow (and a slut) from you guys since your definitions are so skewed!
(Sorry these are out of numeric response order, it doesn't mean I don't know how to count, just that I chose to take the shortest one first!).
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8Shallow slut puts you at the top of my list! Too bad you're in TX...
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9www.b-eez.com
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