Can't get out of my head
recently my fiancee had an affair. We worked it out and though the situation is really shitty the circumstances are forgivable and were. My question to anyone who will listen is how do I get the act out of my head??? I see him fucking her, I know that some other mans hand s were on her! I think the largest problem is that it kills my mind but gets me hot. she is working hard to make us better and deserves a second chance but i still have thius issue. HELP!Rating:0.00
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1ditch the bitch
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2Dude, if you can't get over it, you shouldn't marry her. I just got married not too long ago, there were no infidelity problems, but little things that annoy you when you are dating become regular things... If you have something like this, something big that shakes the foundation of your trust, it'll totally trash a marriage.
And about it making you 'hot', I don't know what your story is, but the idea of another man's hands and body on your fiancee should piss you the fuck off. You should be hunting him down and kicking his ass, not getting 'hot'.
Besides, if she is going to cheat now, before the wedding, what do you think is going to happen on your honeymoon or later in life? The first time things get rough is she going to cheat?
Now, the good Lord is all about forgiveness and I respect that you are giving her a shot... But without trust, your marriage is never going to stand for much.
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3this is your fault that you cannot make her happy!!!
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4i hope you haven't set a date yet- in any case, you should postpone signing the marriage license until you know for sure that a) you can trust her and b) it's not an issue anymore. If it continues to be an issue with you, maybe you shouldn't be married, because it's all downhill from "I do" if there's any sort of minor problem.
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5If she cheated on you before, she'll probably do it again. Show her to the curb.
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6You know man, you have to look at it from her POV. Would she give you the second chance had you been the one who cheated on her? I doubt it. Just think about that.
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7Poster #2 is right -- things tend to exacerbate over time; things that bothered me before we were married make me crazy now, 5 years later. Give it a lot of thought!!
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8www. Bama-bayou.com/california-home-loan
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9well... There's always swinger clubs for you to try.... If you really have been able to forgive her, maybe the two of you can come to some kind of... Arrangement...
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10Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Ditch her.
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11Don't listen to the asshole (#9).
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12Whoops nevermind that misread.
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13lol, i love ventibate
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15You never get it out of your head; it's always there, even if you choose to stay together. The hardest thing will be not to keep bringing it up anytime you have a disagreement/fight. Question to anyone out there.... Is there really forgiveness if you can't forget????
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