I abhorr my mother in law
Yet another mother in law post, I know.I hate my MIL. I have hated her for years. And yet I need to keep things going, my husband will never allow even one word spoken against her. So
I keep all the bad feelings to myself, when she is around I try to behave as if nothing happened... but it does happens. She is a neatness and control freak, manipulates my husband, does not have a life of her own and uses my husband as a surrogate shrink, counselor, friend and God knows what else.
She is always letting me know how inadequate I am to take care of my husband and my son. She started teaching my little boy to call me by my first name instead of mommy and encouraged him to call HER mommy. During the years I have been married she is always come up with some crisis to keep my husband thinking about her the whole day. There is no peace in our home, is an endless MIL soap opera playing in my husband's mind morning, afternoon and night.
Her husband divorced her and is happily married now. No friend can take her for long, no employee. She makes her staff clean her carpets EVERY day with a hand brush... you see, everything is so dirty and she is so clean.
She talks bad about me to my husband and other relatives on a regular basis. When I was pregnant with my son she made my life miserable. I spent some weeks with her and when we went to see a gynecologist she did not let me speak and started telling the gyno about HER health problems.
Later, with the pretext of my forgetting something in her house, she started a war against me, calling my husband when I was sleeping, to tell him horros about me and how much I had hurt her. I was pregnant, for God's sake, and most of the time my husband was horrible to me because of what I had done to his mommy.
She is unable to see anything good on me. Sometimes I think my husband and her would have been happier if I had never appeared in their lives. Now is too late. I am thinking in divorcing my husband, I cannot take any more of this and I am afraid of her influence opn my child. She is a maniac, and I have lost all hope for my husband to have the balls of making things right and stand for me at least once on his life.
Thanks for reading.
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Sounds like they deserve each other.
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I'd probably get a divorce too if I were in your situation. Let your husband and his mommy suck each other's asses while you go live a normal life.
If you stay with your husband you're going to have to put up with him and his crazy mom until she dies. That could be a very long time.
If you do decide to get a divorce you need to make their lives hell as much as possible before it's finalized. It sounds like your mother in law deserves a little payback and you won't have to worry about pissing anyone off because you'll be leaving the whole mess pretty soon.
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Yep, i married a momma's boy too.
what was worse about my now EX MIL was that she had two faces. One to talk sweety to me, and one to disrespect me to my EX husband.
Moral of the story: Divorce him. You will never win. And unless you can fight her til she dies, I would leave with my dignity and self respect.
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You need to talk to your husband about this. If he doesn't change or make her change, get out of there and leave him alone to f*ck his mommy, since it seems like he cares about her more than you.
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Restraining order. Yup, you can never go wrong with a good ol' fashion restraining order! Then again, it might not help sonny boy when mommy's lily white ass gets tossed in jail for repeatedly calling at all hours of the night. Not to mention it'd make Christmas a bit awkward...
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I'm not sure an immediate divorce is necessary...
I agree though, talk to your husband... Especially about your MIL screwing with your kids head... If he refuses, you might want to consider a 'break' or a divorce... I mean, as your husband, he should be sticking up for you when you are being put down.
At some level, you need to fix this because of the kid... But if your husband refuses to work with you on this, then he is probably refusing to work on his side of various things in the marriage... And it is important to note that people, generally, just don't change.
Another thing you can do, is after talking to your husband and him agreeing to do nothing... Have a a throw down with the MIL when the kid isn't present... Call her out, address is publicly to your husband when she does it, and if nothing changes... Tell them they are perfect for each other and get the hell out of dodge...
you should be happy in your marriage, and life is waaaaaaay to short to deal with crap like this when no one but you wants to make it better
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I agree with post 6, have it out with her when your child isnt there. She's walking all over you and treating you like a doormat, what exactly gives her the right to do that? She is a bully and it's time you stood up to her.
If you stand up to her one of two things could happen:
1 - She will shut up and leave you alone, with a newfound respect for you (because at the minute she has no respect for you at all)
2 - She will go mental and things will get out of control and your husband won't stick up for you, you throw him out to go live with his mummy and he will eventually see that he has made a big mistake. It's then up to you to decide whether to take him back and you have the control from that point on.
Either way, something needs to change and only you can make it change. I think it would be better to have a go at changing it for the better first rather than just leaving and knowing that you never gave it a try.
I feel really sorry for you cos I know what you are going through and it's awful that she has put you in this situation at all.
Good Luck with whatever happens *hugs*
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Bless your heart! I would definately leave! Can you imagine the emotional damage this is having on your son!!!! It appears that this woman has won already. She has made you second guess yourself and how you want your life to be. Don't continue to give her the power. If you really love your husband, and if she really is the root of the issue, tell him that you will not have her around you OR YOUR SON! I can't imagine your husband being o. K. with your son calling his MOTHER mommy. This really is twisted. I will pray for you! Good luck!
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Push the bitch down a flight of stairs.
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Go on that "intervention" show and have everyone tell him that he's addicted to "mommy crack"
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Move out of the motel, and let Norman live in peace with dear old mother.
Just be careful showering with him around.
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I agree with 9. But make sure the stairs aren't carpeted. I hear marble steps work wonders.
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www.nuandaojia.com
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Have you tried filing out a bunch of subscription cards in the MIL's name? Just check the bill me later box and watch the fun as porn shows up at the house. Better yet, send it to her neighbors address or to her place of employment. Fun fun fun.
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Can you not slip her a length to make better relations?
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Sounds like they deserve each other.Posted 4 months ago | Report
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I'd probably get a divorce too if I were in your situation. Let your husband and his mommy suck each other's asses while you go live a normal life. If you stay with your husband you're going to have to put up with him and his crazy mom until she dies. That could be a very long time.
If you do decide to get a divorce you need to make their lives hell as much as possible before it's finalized. It sounds like your mother in law deserves a little payback and you won't have to worry about pissing anyone off because you'll be leaving the whole mess pretty soon.
Posted 4 months ago | Report
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Yep, i married a momma's boy too. what was worse about my now EX MIL was that she had two faces. One to talk sweety to me, and one to disrespect me to my EX husband.
Moral of the story: Divorce him. You will never win. And unless you can fight her til she dies, I would leave with my dignity and self respect.
Posted 4 months ago | Report
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You need to talk to your husband about this. If he doesn't change or make her change, get out of there and leave him alone to f*ck his mommy, since it seems like he cares about her more than you.Posted 4 months ago | Report
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Restraining order. Yup, you can never go wrong with a good ol' fashion restraining order! Then again, it might not help sonny boy when mommy's lily white ass gets tossed in jail for repeatedly calling at all hours of the night. Not to mention it'd make Christmas a bit awkward...Posted 4 months ago | Report
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I'm not sure an immediate divorce is necessary... I agree though, talk to your husband... Especially about your MIL screwing with your kids head... If he refuses, you might want to consider a 'break' or a divorce... I mean, as your husband, he should be sticking up for you when you are being put down.
At some level, you need to fix this because of the kid... But if your husband refuses to work with you on this, then he is probably refusing to work on his side of various things in the marriage... And it is important to note that people, generally, just don't change.
Another thing you can do, is after talking to your husband and him agreeing to do nothing... Have a a throw down with the MIL when the kid isn't present... Call her out, address is publicly to your husband when she does it, and if nothing changes... Tell them they are perfect for each other and get the hell out of dodge...
you should be happy in your marriage, and life is waaaaaaay to short to deal with crap like this when no one but you wants to make it better
Posted 4 months ago | Report
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I agree with post 6, have it out with her when your child isnt there. She's walking all over you and treating you like a doormat, what exactly gives her the right to do that? She is a bully and it's time you stood up to her. If you stand up to her one of two things could happen:
1 - She will shut up and leave you alone, with a newfound respect for you (because at the minute she has no respect for you at all)
2 - She will go mental and things will get out of control and your husband won't stick up for you, you throw him out to go live with his mummy and he will eventually see that he has made a big mistake. It's then up to you to decide whether to take him back and you have the control from that point on.
Either way, something needs to change and only you can make it change. I think it would be better to have a go at changing it for the better first rather than just leaving and knowing that you never gave it a try.
I feel really sorry for you cos I know what you are going through and it's awful that she has put you in this situation at all.
Good Luck with whatever happens *hugs*
Posted 4 months ago | Report
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Bless your heart! I would definately leave! Can you imagine the emotional damage this is having on your son!!!! It appears that this woman has won already. She has made you second guess yourself and how you want your life to be. Don't continue to give her the power. If you really love your husband, and if she really is the root of the issue, tell him that you will not have her around you OR YOUR SON! I can't imagine your husband being o. K. with your son calling his MOTHER mommy. This really is twisted. I will pray for you! Good luck!Posted 4 months ago | Report
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Push the bitch down a flight of stairs.Posted 4 months ago | Report
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Go on that "intervention" show and have everyone tell him that he's addicted to "mommy crack"Posted 4 months ago | Report
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Move out of the motel, and let Norman live in peace with dear old mother. Just be careful showering with him around.
Posted 4 months ago | Report
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I agree with 9. But make sure the stairs aren't carpeted. I hear marble steps work wonders.Posted 4 months ago | Report
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www.nuandaojia.comPosted 4 months ago | Report
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Have you tried filing out a bunch of subscription cards in the MIL's name? Just check the bill me later box and watch the fun as porn shows up at the house. Better yet, send it to her neighbors address or to her place of employment. Fun fun fun.Posted 4 months ago | Report
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Can you not slip her a length to make better relations?Posted 3 months ago | Report
