I can't believe you
I CAN'T believe you. We have been dating for almost five years and you say this to me?? The conversation:"I have something important to ask you. It's kind of embarrassing but did you come the last time we had sex?" -me
"Well, I can hardly even remember the last time we had sex, but no, I don't think I did. Why?" -him
"Because I'm about a month and a half late on getting my period."
"You think you could be pregnant?"
"Well, I don't know. I don't know what to think. I mean, there is a chance, but if you didn't come then I'm probably not."
"Good. Because if you are [pregnant], then we'd both know you're cheating on me and that you're a liar. And I obviously couldn't deal with a baby." -him
THE SCENARIO:
I just spent a year in rehab for severe depression and drug addiction. I overdosed several times trying to kill myself (even though at the time I told everyone the overdoses were "accidental") and ended up in the emergency room 4 times and my heart actually stopped two of those times. I just moved into a sober living facility and I'm actually getting my life back on track. I recently had my six months of sobriety. My anti-depressant is working really well.
However, in the past two months the house that I grew up in for 22 years was sold due to my parents' divorce so I lost that, my dog of fucking 15 years died, I discovered I have diabetes, my best friend told everyone that I was an addict after we had a bad fight so I lost a whole lot of friends, and I found out that my grandmother is going to die soon from breast cancer.
So as a result, I have just not been in the mood for sex. We hardly get to see each other anyways because we're both so busy and a lot of the time it's HIM that is too tired or not feeling well enough to have sex, not just me.
Not only does my boyfriend complain ALL THE TIME about us not having sex (and blames it on me everytime), but then he goes and says this.
First of all, no, I haven't fucking cheated on you, and second, you actually think I would cheat on you while I'm going through all of this shit that makes me want to do nothing but scream at the top of my lungs?
I AM TIRED OF YOUR SHIT. One day you are an angel to me and the next day you are the complete opposite.
You were there with me when I was a mess and you supported me the whole time I was in rehab. But then there are times when I can't answer my phone and you say "Fuck you, don't bother calling me back" on my answering machine because I didn't pick up. I'm fucking tired of walking on eggshells. Why do I let myself be treated this way? I'm 22 years old and I should know better.
By the way, no, I'm NOT pregnant and I'M NOT A FUCKING LIAR!!!!
Rating:4.00
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Leave him.
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I agree with 1.
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I think it's weird that if you guys are never having sex and the one time that you did, a month ago or whenever it was, he didn't get off then.
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Generally, having sex once a week is a usual ratio for established couples, give or take. And five years is indeed an established couple.
Taking a brief detour from that, I`m going to note, that your personal addiction problems are not entitling you to unquestionable support. Personally, I`d find you despicable and repulsive. Your boyfriend, obviously, has different tastes, however that still does not mean that you simply must have his sympathy just because you can`t deal with life. If anything, he deserves additional attention for taking on your burdens as well.
That beind said, most men are naturally afraid of cheating. The reason for that is two-fold.
First, ironically, comes from the fact that men are much more liable to initialte cheating, psychologically-wise, wich leads them to assume women can do that too.
Second comes from subconscious fear of loneliness, and that reason to a large degree shared with women. However, men rather tend to take aggressive stance about what`s already "theirs", rather then attempt to move on to greener pastures.
Unless cheating becomes obsessive idea, it is within normal course of things. You cheating on him will occur to him more then once - and that much is unavoidable. Question is merely weather he is able to rationalise it away or will it become obsession. Most men manage first. Others tend not to reproduce.
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5
To number 4:
the apostrophe goes the other way
it looks like this ' not this `
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6
#5, you're a "cunt".
And I'm not #4
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I am #4, and #5 is an asshole. Explain to me why I am a "cunt"?
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8
Will the real Slim Shady please stand up?
I think you`ve mixed up the numbers. You are number 5, and you thought my post under number 4 was not quite up to whichever standards you`ve put.
As far as apostrophes go, ' is a sungle quote, supplemented by ", which is double quote.
On English-only keyboards, key ' used to be (and on some still is) the only easily accessible key to put a sign resembling an apostrophe, despite being actually a quote.
However, my keyboard is double engish-cyrillic and has some of the keys remapped (Including easily-accessible ` apostrophe from the very first keyboards fitted to ye olde 286 compys.) - which is the reason why I`m habitually using proper apostrophe of ` instead of single quote ' as most english-speakers do.
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As far as the tone and message of my previous post (#4) go, I`m really aggravated by people who think that they are entitled to anything just because they have hard time swallowing reality without chemical "lubricants". Consider this my rant, if you wish.
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Op, you're 22 and on antidepressants, to me that shows you are a psycho and cannot be believed no matter what you say........ Fuck off
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You can do better. leave him.
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I don't think she is a psycho. I think that she is mentally ill and is getting the help that she needs. And someone that is sick shouldn't be degraded. It isn't easy. I would know I'm mentally ill myself so does that make me a psycho? I think that you are just ignorant to the fact that more than 75% of our country is on some sort of antidepressant or another. So grow up and learn your facts. And to the girl this is about ditch the guy and worry about yourself right now that is the best thing that you could do. I have been there myself.
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#1, yeah, he came, he's a guy. That's not even a question, moron.
#2, Even if he didn't, you can still get pregnant. Look up: secretions. Not coming is NOT effective birth control. Again, moron! Good job populating the world with your idiotic genes. Make sure that when he/she/it grows up, that it actually LISTEN in health class.
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Whacked out chick with emotional issues (no self-esteem, suicidal tendencies, poor socialization, major lack of coping skills) who is drug-dependent, and has no true family support network = easy fuck.
When the easy sex stops, boyfriend moves on.
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Sounds like ya'll were doing great when you had Meth Sponsored 8 Hour Fuck sessions. The grass ain't as green now that you are sober. Move on. Stay clean, and good things will start to happen.
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Attempted Suicide = You can't do anything right.
Practice makes perfect, so KEEP TRYING.
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Leave him.Posted 3 months ago | Report
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I agree with 1.Posted 3 months ago | Report
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I think it's weird that if you guys are never having sex and the one time that you did, a month ago or whenever it was, he didn't get off then.Posted 3 months ago | Report
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Generally, having sex once a week is a usual ratio for established couples, give or take. And five years is indeed an established couple.Taking a brief detour from that, I`m going to note, that your personal addiction problems are not entitling you to unquestionable support. Personally, I`d find you despicable and repulsive. Your boyfriend, obviously, has different tastes, however that still does not mean that you simply must have his sympathy just because you can`t deal with life. If anything, he deserves additional attention for taking on your burdens as well.
That beind said, most men are naturally afraid of cheating. The reason for that is two-fold.
First, ironically, comes from the fact that men are much more liable to initialte cheating, psychologically-wise, wich leads them to assume women can do that too.
Second comes from subconscious fear of loneliness, and that reason to a large degree shared with women. However, men rather tend to take aggressive stance about what`s already "theirs", rather then attempt to move on to greener pastures.
Unless cheating becomes obsessive idea, it is within normal course of things. You cheating on him will occur to him more then once - and that much is unavoidable. Question is merely weather he is able to rationalise it away or will it become obsession. Most men manage first. Others tend not to reproduce.
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To number 4:the apostrophe goes the other way
it looks like this ' not this `
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#5, you're a "cunt".And I'm not #4
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I am #4, and #5 is an asshole. Explain to me why I am a "cunt"?Posted 3 months ago | Report
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Will the real Slim Shady please stand up?I think you`ve mixed up the numbers. You are number 5, and you thought my post under number 4 was not quite up to whichever standards you`ve put.
As far as apostrophes go, ' is a sungle quote, supplemented by ", which is double quote.
On English-only keyboards, key ' used to be (and on some still is) the only easily accessible key to put a sign resembling an apostrophe, despite being actually a quote.
However, my keyboard is double engish-cyrillic and has some of the keys remapped (Including easily-accessible ` apostrophe from the very first keyboards fitted to ye olde 286 compys.) - which is the reason why I`m habitually using proper apostrophe of ` instead of single quote ' as most english-speakers do.
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As far as the tone and message of my previous post (#4) go, I`m really aggravated by people who think that they are entitled to anything just because they have hard time swallowing reality without chemical "lubricants". Consider this my rant, if you wish.
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Op, you're 22 and on antidepressants, to me that shows you are a psycho and cannot be believed no matter what you say........ Fuck offPosted 3 months ago | Report
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You can do better. leave him.Posted 3 months ago | Report
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I don't think she is a psycho. I think that she is mentally ill and is getting the help that she needs. And someone that is sick shouldn't be degraded. It isn't easy. I would know I'm mentally ill myself so does that make me a psycho? I think that you are just ignorant to the fact that more than 75% of our country is on some sort of antidepressant or another. So grow up and learn your facts. And to the girl this is about ditch the guy and worry about yourself right now that is the best thing that you could do. I have been there myself.Posted 3 months ago | Report
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#1, yeah, he came, he's a guy. That's not even a question, moron. #2, Even if he didn't, you can still get pregnant. Look up: secretions. Not coming is NOT effective birth control. Again, moron! Good job populating the world with your idiotic genes. Make sure that when he/she/it grows up, that it actually LISTEN in health class.
Posted 3 months ago | Report
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Whacked out chick with emotional issues (no self-esteem, suicidal tendencies, poor socialization, major lack of coping skills) who is drug-dependent, and has no true family support network = easy fuck.When the easy sex stops, boyfriend moves on.
Posted 3 months ago | Report
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Sounds like ya'll were doing great when you had Meth Sponsored 8 Hour Fuck sessions. The grass ain't as green now that you are sober. Move on. Stay clean, and good things will start to happen.Posted 3 months ago | Report
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Attempted Suicide = You can't do anything right.Practice makes perfect, so KEEP TRYING.
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