I hate my mother
I havent talked to her in oner 8 months. I am always " the bigger person" who tries to start up the relationship again, and again. She always seems to freak out on me about something. I'm 34 and have two kids, 13 & 10, who see her how she is. And i dont want them to go through the same shit i did as a kid. They dont even want to talk to her, even with my proding. We have since moved and my wife and i have decided to cut off ties with her all together. I hate her for what she is and has always been.Rating:3.67
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And yet without her you wouldn't be here.
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^ Just because you give birth doesn't make you a mother or make you deserving of your children's love.
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George Carlin put it perfectly, I think:
"Some parents deserve respect. Most of them don't."
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Got to love George Carlin.
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Emotionally, you need to write her off and care for your own kids.
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I know excatly how you feel. My mother is a mother from hell! I expect her mother was the same way. I never wanted childern because I was afraid I moght end up like her! She treats her three oldest childern bad and her two youngest like gold. My sister & I try to stay away from her because she depresses us.
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I am at the point of giving up on my mother, she sounds very much like your's. I wouldn't say I hate her but I dislike her a lot!! I know I am a good person yet my mother can make me feel so worthless after only 30 mins in her company. Just when you think she can be nice she does or says something so nasty that it restores the balance! I would not choose to have someone as nasty and vicious as her in my life so I have decided to cut ties with her altogether. Thanks for your post the "bigger person" point rings so true!!!
Posted 6 months ago | Report
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Plus I wish she was nasty all the time, it would have made it so much easier to give up on her years ago.
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This "but he/she gave you life" line of reasoning is a common retarded response spewed by people who never had a truly horrible parent.
Posted 5 months ago | Report
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Good Luck. My mother loves to draw me in and make me think she's going to be nice to me and then -wham. She actually made me feel like a toad for taking care of my grandparents when my grandfather was dying. Somehow I didn't meet her ever changing needs. AGAIN. I didn't speak to her for 5 years, we've been to counselling, I've tried to set boundries. But until I agree that I'm scum she isn't happy. Then she's nice to me until I'm "hooked" and then it happens all over again. It's awful. She didn't raise me and that stupid inner child still wants a mother. One of these days -- maybe -- I'll be strong enough to leave her forever.
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i hate my mother just because she carryed me for 9 months doesnt mean she have to yell at me and tell me that im a jackass and in sult me so much at point i wish she would just die probly i wont have a flippen emotional problem most of the time and i agree with # 2&3 commenters
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i also see where #7 commenter comes from
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I hate my mother so much she never understands me and force me to be nice to the step dad who I hate. She doesnt care how many times I said I am not happy to be nice to him and need to be together. She keeps saying I am a selfish person for yeras, and I am so sick of it. I think she is the one who is very selfish, wanting me to do whatever she want , and if I dont do it, she will yell at me that I am such a selfish person! I hate her!
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nothing i do could ever make my mother happy or proud. nothing is ever good enough and never will be. i am a grown woman with a daughter of my own and she still belittles me and finds the negative in absolutely everything.
she still lives in her childhood. she had a cold mother who ate away her self esteem, but that doesn't mean it's right to do the same thing to me.
I am so sick of the negative influence she has on my life. and it sounds terrible, but I'm so glad I'm not the only one with a difficult mother!
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It sucks that my mother is very irrational, emotional and dramatic. i love her..... but, she keeps yelling at me and i m so freaking sick with it. i dont know how to deal with this when i love her so much but i cant stand her.
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And yet without her you wouldn't be here.Posted 7 months ago | Report
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^ Just because you give birth doesn't make you a mother or make you deserving of your children's love.Posted 7 months ago | Report
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George Carlin put it perfectly, I think:"Some parents deserve respect. Most of them don't."
Posted 7 months ago | Report
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Got to love George Carlin.Posted 7 months ago | Report
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Emotionally, you need to write her off and care for your own kids.Posted 7 months ago | Report
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I know excatly how you feel. My mother is a mother from hell! I expect her mother was the same way. I never wanted childern because I was afraid I moght end up like her! She treats her three oldest childern bad and her two youngest like gold. My sister & I try to stay away from her because she depresses us.Posted 7 months ago | Report
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I am at the point of giving up on my mother, she sounds very much like your's. I wouldn't say I hate her but I dislike her a lot!! I know I am a good person yet my mother can make me feel so worthless after only 30 mins in her company. Just when you think she can be nice she does or says something so nasty that it restores the balance! I would not choose to have someone as nasty and vicious as her in my life so I have decided to cut ties with her altogether. Thanks for your post the "bigger person" point rings so true!!!Posted 6 months ago | Report
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Plus I wish she was nasty all the time, it would have made it so much easier to give up on her years ago.Posted 6 months ago | Report
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This "but he/she gave you life" line of reasoning is a common retarded response spewed by people who never had a truly horrible parent.Posted 5 months ago | Report
10
Good Luck. My mother loves to draw me in and make me think she's going to be nice to me and then -wham. She actually made me feel like a toad for taking care of my grandparents when my grandfather was dying. Somehow I didn't meet her ever changing needs. AGAIN. I didn't speak to her for 5 years, we've been to counselling, I've tried to set boundries. But until I agree that I'm scum she isn't happy. Then she's nice to me until I'm "hooked" and then it happens all over again. It's awful. She didn't raise me and that stupid inner child still wants a mother. One of these days -- maybe -- I'll be strong enough to leave her forever.Posted 5 months ago | Report
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i hate my mother just because she carryed me for 9 months doesnt mean she have to yell at me and tell me that im a jackass and in sult me so much at point i wish she would just die probly i wont have a flippen emotional problem most of the time and i agree with # 2&3 commentersPosted 5 months ago | Report
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i also see where #7 commenter comes fromPosted 5 months ago | Report
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I hate my mother so much she never understands me and force me to be nice to the step dad who I hate. She doesnt care how many times I said I am not happy to be nice to him and need to be together. She keeps saying I am a selfish person for yeras, and I am so sick of it. I think she is the one who is very selfish, wanting me to do whatever she want , and if I dont do it, she will yell at me that I am such a selfish person! I hate her!Posted 5 months ago | Report
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nothing i do could ever make my mother happy or proud. nothing is ever good enough and never will be. i am a grown woman with a daughter of my own and she still belittles me and finds the negative in absolutely everything. she still lives in her childhood. she had a cold mother who ate away her self esteem, but that doesn't mean it's right to do the same thing to me.
I am so sick of the negative influence she has on my life. and it sounds terrible, but I'm so glad I'm not the only one with a difficult mother!
Posted 5 months ago | Report
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It sucks that my mother is very irrational, emotional and dramatic. i love her..... but, she keeps yelling at me and i m so freaking sick with it. i dont know how to deal with this when i love her so much but i cant stand her.Posted 5 months ago | Report