Porn is bad Mmkay
Ive never really had a problem with porn, hell, Ive used it like everyone else.But once you're in a serious relationship, that's when things change.
See, my boyfriend has an active account to a porn site. I have already told him it bothers the hell out of me.
To think that he jacks off to other women. It makes me feel that I don't satisfy him and im not good enough in bed for him. I am even willing to do kinky stuff with him that Ive never done to any other guy.
The things we do for a man!
Then I find myself comparing my body with the voluptuous women that come out in those videos he watches (Ive seen the browsing history)... just makes me feel worse about myself because im not even close to that.
Then there's also the fact that he is doing it behind my back, because supposedly he was going to cancel his account.
Maybe he is addicted to porn..... i dont know... I dont know what to do.
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1. Swallow.
2. Perform anal.
3. Invite other women into the bed.
4. Perform sexual activities at his every beck and call.
Mmmmkay?
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Oh, and learn to enjoy porn, yourself... Mmmkay?
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Surely you can't honestly tell us that you don't have fantasies that don't involve your boyfriend. My wife and I watch porn together on occasion but I watch it more often by myself and she has no problem with it. Anymore than I have a problem with her having a fantasy about Brad Pitt.
Unless he's watching it way too often and as long as you both have good sex I don't see anything unhealthy about it. Watch it with him sometimes and be open with each other is my advice.
Btw, my wife and I have been happily married for 26 years and were high school sweathearts so I do have some experience in these matters.
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Find yourself a new boyfriend.
(preferably one who isn't a pig)
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A guy that watches porn is a pig? I guess your boyfriend will need to be happy going to church with you.
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The important thing is that you two can live with each other the way you are. he is that way, and you can't live with it. it won't change.
believe me!
stop trying, i would bet a lot that he isn't trying so hard.
you can find someone who is more what you want.
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As long as it is not perused instead of doing things with you, I don`t see what`s your problem is.
General rule about porn (especially paid sites) is that although everyone knows how divas look, noone knows where they live. Which is pretty logical.
So, uh, unless you have really unhealthy possessive streak involving total control over your boyfriend actions, him watching porn would have very little impact on your lives, as long as you have priority over it.
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I have to agree with #7. It's healthy if both of you experience things together. It very well maybe possible that he has a porn addiction. I know I did. It's so easy to get caught up in all the shit the internet has to offer but you have to have self-control to move on and not let it rule your life. If he is doing it behind your back, you have to think what else is he doing behind your back? Talk to him about it, the only way to deal with it is to address it.
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He doesn't deserve your love. Do something bad to get back at him.
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Mmkay.
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Yeah, leave him. He's a pig.
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No one has to be qualified as "A Pig". To each their own (a hard concept to swallow - forgive the puns). But if you've already discussed it, no matter how each of you feel - but then HE lied going behind you back - this is not the basis for a lasting relationship.
Live and let live - sure. But if YOU can't live with it -- there ain't no reason for you to be the "WELCOME" doormat.
Has nothing to do with being "prudish" or stuck-up. They can and should be you own standards, But if a liar breaks their promise - "Fooled me once - shame on you. Fool me twice - shame on ME!"
(Sorry I may not have gotten the quote quite right - but Dubyah screwed it up so bad - it's the first few pages of Google)
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What is it with women always wanting to change men?
Think about this logically (if you can, women).
You fall for us, and our cute little foibles, but then those very same foibles begin to annoy you. Then you want us to change.
In effect, this is a change away from the person we have been all along, that YOU fell in love with.
Do you think we are that stupid?
It puts men in a helluva position... don't change, and you're an asshole. Change, and you're an asshole. Which is it?
Well, either you will have to confront your own internal drive to alter men, or you will become bitter, old, unmarried women, with millions of cats for company.
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You just got to talk to each other about it and if he is addicted to porn do something about it, any kind of addiction is bad and if hes not then leave the poor guy alone.
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Here's what you should do - Constantly confront him in a demeaning, acusitory tone every time you think he jerked off when you weren't around, and when you're not together, keep obsessing about what you may be lacking that makes him want other imaginary women.
Keep this routine up untill he gets so sick of your shit that he forgets he ever loved you. After you break up, keep up the obsessing about what's wrong with you so you can carry these same insecurities into your next relationship untill you drive him away too.
Also, you might want to get a cat now, while you still have someone in your life, so you don't have to admit to yourself later that it's your only chance at long term companionship.
Posted 2 months ago | Report
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1. Swallow.2. Perform anal.
3. Invite other women into the bed.
4. Perform sexual activities at his every beck and call.
Mmmmkay?
Posted 2 months ago | Report
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Oh, and learn to enjoy porn, yourself... Mmmkay?Posted 2 months ago | Report
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Surely you can't honestly tell us that you don't have fantasies that don't involve your boyfriend. My wife and I watch porn together on occasion but I watch it more often by myself and she has no problem with it. Anymore than I have a problem with her having a fantasy about Brad Pitt. Unless he's watching it way too often and as long as you both have good sex I don't see anything unhealthy about it. Watch it with him sometimes and be open with each other is my advice.
Btw, my wife and I have been happily married for 26 years and were high school sweathearts so I do have some experience in these matters.
Posted 2 months ago | Report
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Find yourself a new boyfriend.(preferably one who isn't a pig)
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A guy that watches porn is a pig? I guess your boyfriend will need to be happy going to church with you.Posted 2 months ago | Report
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The important thing is that you two can live with each other the way you are. he is that way, and you can't live with it. it won't change. believe me!
stop trying, i would bet a lot that he isn't trying so hard.
you can find someone who is more what you want.
Posted 2 months ago | Report
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As long as it is not perused instead of doing things with you, I don`t see what`s your problem is.General rule about porn (especially paid sites) is that although everyone knows how divas look, noone knows where they live. Which is pretty logical.
So, uh, unless you have really unhealthy possessive streak involving total control over your boyfriend actions, him watching porn would have very little impact on your lives, as long as you have priority over it.
Posted 2 months ago | Report
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I have to agree with #7. It's healthy if both of you experience things together. It very well maybe possible that he has a porn addiction. I know I did. It's so easy to get caught up in all the shit the internet has to offer but you have to have self-control to move on and not let it rule your life. If he is doing it behind your back, you have to think what else is he doing behind your back? Talk to him about it, the only way to deal with it is to address it.Posted 2 months ago | Report
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He doesn't deserve your love. Do something bad to get back at him.Posted 2 months ago | Report
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Mmkay.Posted 2 months ago | Report
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Yeah, leave him. He's a pig.Posted 2 months ago | Report
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No one has to be qualified as "A Pig". To each their own (a hard concept to swallow - forgive the puns). But if you've already discussed it, no matter how each of you feel - but then HE lied going behind you back - this is not the basis for a lasting relationship.Live and let live - sure. But if YOU can't live with it -- there ain't no reason for you to be the "WELCOME" doormat.
Has nothing to do with being "prudish" or stuck-up. They can and should be you own standards, But if a liar breaks their promise - "Fooled me once - shame on you. Fool me twice - shame on ME!"
(Sorry I may not have gotten the quote quite right - but Dubyah screwed it up so bad - it's the first few pages of Google)
Posted 2 months ago | Report
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What is it with women always wanting to change men? Think about this logically (if you can, women).
You fall for us, and our cute little foibles, but then those very same foibles begin to annoy you. Then you want us to change.
In effect, this is a change away from the person we have been all along, that YOU fell in love with.
Do you think we are that stupid?
It puts men in a helluva position... don't change, and you're an asshole. Change, and you're an asshole. Which is it?
Well, either you will have to confront your own internal drive to alter men, or you will become bitter, old, unmarried women, with millions of cats for company.
Posted 2 months ago | Report
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You just got to talk to each other about it and if he is addicted to porn do something about it, any kind of addiction is bad and if hes not then leave the poor guy alone.Posted 2 months ago | Report
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Here's what you should do - Constantly confront him in a demeaning, acusitory tone every time you think he jerked off when you weren't around, and when you're not together, keep obsessing about what you may be lacking that makes him want other imaginary women. Keep this routine up untill he gets so sick of your shit that he forgets he ever loved you. After you break up, keep up the obsessing about what's wrong with you so you can carry these same insecurities into your next relationship untill you drive him away too.
Also, you might want to get a cat now, while you still have someone in your life, so you don't have to admit to yourself later that it's your only chance at long term companionship.
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